Tears are just tears

The Zen master Tokusan had a wife whom he deeply loved. When she died, he was found by his disciples weeping and wailing loudly.

One of his disciples approached him and said, “Master, you have always taught us that birth and death are illusions, that attachment leads to suffering, and that we should transcend grief. Why then are you now weeping so openly?”

Tokusan looked up at his disciple and replied, “Don’t you understand? This grief I feel - this too is Zen. My tears are just tears.”